Month: July 2015

A year of studying and working.

Photo by Ryan Wilson My first year of being back at work and in school is done. I haven’t really had much time to reflect because of all of the work travel I’ve done in the last two weeks – Melbourne and then Jakarta a week […]

Stories I loved this week.

Photo by vincenzo di giorgi It’s finally the end of the week and by the time you read this, I’ll be in Jakarta (!) on another work shoot. I had my Hepatitis A and typhoid fever jabs last week and have been researching weather, food and […]

Self-perception vs. reality.

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Photo by Elena Berridy

Is there ever a point where you ever feel 100% comfortable with yourself, a point where your self-perception changes to fit reality, in a good way?

A bit of backstory: I was a happy, athletic child who was hit hard by puberty. As a teenager, I suffered from depression, gained quite a lot of weight and used food to self-medicate. I was in a better place during university, as I was forced to walk everywhere, be social and make better food choices.  My physical self changed, but my emotional self did not.

There is something about your self-perception vs. the way others perceive you and the reality of who you are. In my mind, I still see myself as an awkward, dumpy 17 year old girl and occasionally get a surprise when I walk past my reflection and see a strong 35 year old (often carrying a toddler!) woman striding past. Strange. Is it another form of imposter syndrome, where your beliefs about your strengths and weaknesses are misaligned with how good you actually are, what you’ve actually achieved?

Many women talk about being more comfortable with themselves in their thirties than in their twenties, and getting even more comfortable in their forties than in their thirties. And so on. (Here’s a great article from India Knight where she says stop worrying and start enjoying! More of this in her fabulous book, In Your Prime)

From my perspective, there is a lot of truth in this. I feel more comfortable with myself than I ever have and would never want to return to my twenties or teenaged self. I know my own mind, what I can tolerate and what I can’t. What I like and what I don’t. What I’m willing to try and what my red lines are. I know things are not black and white and that some things just take time. Some of this has come with time and maturity and some of this comfort has come from motherhood – the broken sleep, the initial hard graft of breastfeeding and the many moments of just waiting (still waiting for the sleeping through the night!). Knowing that I don’t have the time or even the energy to indulge in the constant cycle of negative self-talk. And yet, in those quiet moments, the negative self-talk is still there.

Life’s too short. It sounds trite, but it’s true. It’s annoying to think of all the time and brain power, I’ve dedicated to thinking about how I hate my stomach (the only body part I’m not 100% comfortable with). What a waste of time, when I think about all the things I want to do and what I want to achieve.

Stories I loved this week.

Photo by Daniela Cuevas It’s Saturday and I’m looking forward to some sweet relaxation time with my two guys. A lot of cooking, playing, laughing and eating is planned for this weekend before I head off on another work adventure to Jakarta next week! Here are […]

Under pressure.

  Photo by Eli DeFaria There is no doubt we as women put way too much pressure on ourselves. We want to be the perfect mom, the perfect wife, have the perfect body, do our very best at work and cook the best food. The list […]

Stories I loved this week.

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Photo by James Douglas

Tomorrow I’m heading out to Melbourne on a work trip, which I’m so looking forward to as I’ve never been there before. Do you have any Melbourne recommendations? Let me know in the comments! Here are some of the stories I loved this week!

Do you know how much your partner earns? I do and I’m surprised that people aren’t more open about this stuff in their relationship. (The Pool)

Female friendship and the great baby divide. The haves and have nots. I definitely feel a difference in my friendships now that I have a child. Some have dropped off and have some gotten so much better. (Stylist)

Is the Paleo diet supported by scientific research? This article thinks so. (Mark’s Daily Apple)

That Sugar Film looks great. The story of a guy that eats 40 teaspoons of sugar a day from ‘healthy’ foods and sees the negative effects you would typically expect from ‘unhealthy’ foods. (Telegraph)

Another great, well researched article from Chris Kresser looking at why we get sick and how to get well. (Chris Kresser.com)

Six beauty ingredients every woman should avoid. (The Chalkboard)

Food rules. 

Photo by Julia Caesar It seems that most people these days have rules that they use to help them navigate their day to day food choices. No wheat. No eating after 8pm. No wine during the week. The busier our lives get, the more these […]