My guest on today’s episode is Rebecca Moore, a breathwork and yoga teacher, spiritual guide and author of the new book Radical Self-Care: Rituals for Inner Resilience.
In this episode, Rebecca shares:
- Healthy ways to get your daily D.O.S.E (dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, endorphins)
- The importance of rituals
- The sacred morning ritual that she always starts her day with
- Why self-soothing isn’t just for children
- How to do one of the self-soothing rituals, bhramari breath
- Why we all need radical self-care
- The importance of knowing your limits and setting clear boundaries
- And of course, the story of her first period
Rebecca says that it’s so important that create space for ourselves, where we can just give ourselves permission to be as we are, without feeling the need to better ourselves or fix ourselves in some way.
Thank you, Rebecca!
Get in touch with Rebecca:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/__rebecca__moore/
Website: https://www.rebecca-moore.com
Her book: Radical Self-Care: Rituals for Inner Resilience
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SHOW TRANSCRIPT
Le’Nise Brothers:
Hi, Rebecca. Thank you so much for coming onto the show today. I’m really excited to speak to you, to talk about your book, to talk about the amazing work you do, but let’s first start off by you telling us the story of your very first period.
Rebecca Moore:
Yeah, sure. Thank you again for having me. So I had to really think about this question because I couldn’t remember at first when my first ever period was. I was kind of like, wait, when was that? And it really took me back to just the memories of having my period and all of the challenges around that time when it was, I don’t know, I just felt quite alone in it. I do remember though, sharing with my mum that I’d started to bleed and my mum gave me some pads. She also gave me some tampons, and she explains the way that you can try to use these tampons is to have a mirror and use a mirror, and it just seemed really hard and scary. So I just remembered that I kind of put the tampons to the side, but began to use the pads. So I remembered that about my first period. I remember feeling quite alone in it, even though I did feel open enough to mention it to my mum. I didn’t feel like there was really anyone else to talk to about it. And aside from my mum giving me some pads and telling me how to put in a tampon, I probably could have asked her more questions around it, but I didn’t. I think I was very shy as well at that age.
Le’Nise Brothers:
How old were you?
Rebecca Moore:
13.
Le’Nise Brothers:
13, okay. Yeah. And what about your friends had they started as well?
Rebecca Moore:
So when I first began to bleed, I actually didn’t know of anyone else that was bleeding at the same time. And what I do remember is eventually it sort of was a gradual process of me finding out that other people were also, other friends were also on their periods. And the interesting thing about that is from my memory, it was more so from noticing other girls leaking in class in school and thinking, oh, she’s bleeding too, rather than a conversation that was being had amongst friends.
Le’Nise Brothers:
So you kind of attribute this to feeling shy, feeling like this perhaps wasn’t a conversation to be had. Had you learned about menstruation and all of that in school and PSHME?
Rebecca Moore:
Yeah, I remember there were lessons, but I remember it just being very, I guess it was because it’s so anatomical in the way that they were sharing it. It felt like a disconnect from what I was learning, looking at, for example, a diagram in a textbook to actually feeling what was going on in my body. And even in this moment in reflecting on it, there wasn’t really any conversation around how we would feel emotionally, physically around this whole process of our menstrual cycle. It was more, this is what happens between this day and this day anatomically, but there wasn’t really much in the way of how it would actually feel to have that experience in your body. And I think that’s where the disconnect really came from.
Le’Nise Brothers:
Were you ever in a place, or have you gotten to a place where you feel more connected and you kind of understand that emotional side, not just the physical side of the bleed and then the bigger cycle?
Rebecca Moore:
Oh, a hundred percent. So I had my son really young, and shortly after giving birth, I was told that I should go on the pill to avoid getting pregnant again. So I was on the pill through my twenties and I think I came off just before my 30th birthday and it was really coming off the pill. I do hear this a lot, so apologies if it sounds like a repeated story, but it was really coming off the pill and really I guess doing the work to retrieve my natural cycle. And then in that really connecting to the natural process of my body. And in the time that I have moved, I used to have quite a chaotic lifestyle. I used to run a fashion and arts magazine and it was constantly go, go, go. And it was very much ignore the body. We’ve just got work to do.
So I think when that shifted as well, it kind of coincided with coming off contraception. And during that time I was getting to know my body more anyway. I was recovering from burnout, and it just got to the point where I couldn’t really ignore my body anymore. I didn’t want to. And from that point, I started to really pay attention to my cycle and when I was bleeding, when I was ovulating, how I was feeling during the whole process. And now I’m completely obsessed. I talk about my bleed all the time. I probably jar a lot of people, but I think it’s such a gift to be able to have that connection with our bodies. And our bodies are a gift. It’s a miracle that we’re alive in these bodies. So my feelings around it have definitely shifted massively.
Le’Nise Brothers:
That really touched me what you just said about our bodies are a gift. It’s a miracle that we’re alive in these bodies. That really touches me because there are so many different ways in this world that we can be disconnected. The technology on the surface, ostensibly it’s about connection, but really if you think about how we use it, social media, it can be so disconnecting in, disconnecting us from ourselves, how we actually feel and people using it as a tool for just these artificial dopamine hits. And I’m skipping ahead a little bit in the questions that I want to ask you, but this kind of in your book, which we’ll talk about in more detail in a second, you do talk about healthy ways to stimulate these four big chemicals. So dopamine, oxytocin, serotonin, and endorphins, and you call it your daily D.O.S.E. And I think it’s so, so important because we know that Instagram is basically like, it’s like a casino for artificial dopamine hits. Can you talk a little bit more about natural ways, healthy ways to get what you call your daily dose?
Rebecca Moore:
Yeah, sure. And yeah, I love that you’ve touched on this because I was actually having a conversation with someone earlier in the week and saying, I really noticed a shift in my energy when I go online. So I have a very, very sacred morning practice. It’s just time and space for me to be in my own energy after waking up, before I launch myself into the world and even checking my phone at whatever point that I do. When I finish my practice, even if I receive a nice message or I go on Instagram and see beautiful comments, there’s still a shift, a noticeable shift in my energy. So I just wanted to share that because it’s been a topic this week. But yeah, there’s so many ways that you can get your daily D.O.S.E. For me, being in the body is such a big one. So it’s not always comfortable to be in our bodies and I want to acknowledge that. But actually just sitting with that kind of concept that we are, like I said, literally living in a miracle, even if I’m achy or in pain, just connecting to that, it creates this feeling of interconnection and you can take it a step further. And things like physical touch. So something as simple as rubbing your own ears. We have so many nerve endings in our ears, so that literally sends happy signals around the body breathing as well. Deep breathing.
There are so many different ways to stimulate our vagus nerve, which is responsible for putting us in a restful state. Things like humming, it’s so simple. I grew up hearing my mum’s humming and singing around the house. It’s really beautiful actually because my 4-year-old niece has taken it up now she’s always singing and humming. Now she spends a lot of time with my mum. But humming it creates that vagal nerve stimulation that sends those kind of just restful, calm signals around the body. Another big one for me, which is it’s become almost like a non-negotiable, is getting out into nature, being in nature. I was walking in the park a couple of weeks ago when the weather was less rainy, and I noticed this woman come to a point in the path and she took her shoes off and she started walking down this path really slowly barefoot.
And it really filled me up to see that. And it actually also gave me permission just recently moved to this new area. And previously I was in a space that had a garden. So I would go out all the time with my bare feet and connect to the earth, but I hadn’t quite got to the point of being brave enough to do it in a public park. But seeing this other woman do it completely gave me permission. And also connection, real authentic connection with others. And that doesn’t even necessarily have to be family or friends. It’s like when you catch the eyes of someone and they’re smiling or you smile and they smile back, that fills you up. So yeah, there are many different ways to get your daily D.O.S.E. Yeah, I hope that answers your question.
Le’Nise Brothers:
Yeah, it really does. One of the things you mentioned was around touch. And something I noticed coming out of the pandemic in my classes, my yoga classes, is that people, they seemed quite touch starved and especially those who lived on their own or perhaps living with people who were just out of the house quite a lot. And something that I brought into my classes and I still do, is this, at the end, we all kind of open our arms out wide and then we give ourselves a big hug. And I always ask my students to hold it for at least 10 to 20 seconds because that the longer you give yourself a hug, that touch you’re stimulating oxytocin production, which is our hormone of love, and we feel that release and it’s so calming for the nervous system. And I absolutely love that because you look around in the class and you can just see the shift in people’s faces from just this tight holding of the face and you can see the softness come onto the face and I just adore it.
You also mentioned the humming, and in your book you talk about self-soothing, which is another really powerful way of releasing these chemicals that we’ve talked about, the daily D.O.S.E. And I think it is going back to what we talked about earlier, we talked about these unhealthy ways that we access dopamine, serotonin, but self-soothing is something that can be so powerful. And you see actually, when you see people out in the world, you see them, the effects of not being able to self-soothe, with people shouting or just having these really strong reactions. And I think back to when my son was a baby and you hear, oh, they need to learn to self-soothe and let them cry and they need to learn to self-soothe. And that never, ever really sat right with me because I just thought, well, we have to teach them. They don’t just learn. Crying isn’t a way for them to learn how to soothe and calm their nervous system. And we talked about humming and you mentioned Bhramari breath, which is the kind of bumblebee breath in the book. Can you talk a little bit about that as a self-soothing technique and some other rituals that we might be able to use to self-soothe?
Rebecca Moore:
Yeah, sure. So bhramari pranayama, it’s a beautiful technique and it’s actually something that I share a lot with kids when I do work with kids because it’s fun. And I think equally actually sharing it with adults because it’s something that takes away, I think I get people out of taking themselves too seriously when I start talking about this breath that’s like a buzzing bee, but it is an incredible technique. So it just really involves the name bhramari actually means black bee and it involves taking a deep breath in and then humming the breath out or buzzing the breath out. And you can do it just buzzing the breath out, or you can do it whilst you’re blocking your ears. That kind of increases the vibration that you feel. And you can also do it blocking your eyes and your ears. But it’s a really great one again, for, as I mentioned before, that stimulating the vagus nerve and ascending signals to your brain that you can relax, it’s safe to relax and let go. It’s really grateful, calming anxiety.
There are times where I have been completely thrown into my sympathetic state, where I’ve been. Life isn’t without challenges. There’ll always be things that throw us off and I will literally just sit there blocking my eyes, blocking my ears and practice this technique, bhramari pranayama because it’s also like a reset. So it’s a really, really incredible self-soothing tool. You mentioned the self hug, which I love. I had a situation where I was on a train out of London, out of my comfort zone, and me and my friend, we were going on this kind of retreat and we had all of our luggage all up on the shelves, and we hadn’t realized that when the train got to the station that we were supposed to get off, we didn’t have that much time to actually grab our luggage and get off. And she ended up getting off and I just missed the door and the train was just moving.
And she was kind of like, what do we do? I was like, I don’t know. And I had such a kind of intense, stressful reaction. I was shaking, and I knew that in that moment all I could do was just wait until I got to the next stop. No idea whether that would be 10 minutes away or an hour away. Thankfully it was only 10 minutes away. But on the train, that’s quite a long stop. And when I got off, the first thing I did before going to ask anyone or figure out what to do next was give myself a hug so that I could just calm myself down. And I like what you mentioned about this act of giving yourself that affection, that release also of oxytocin and the softening that comes with that. I was then able to make an informed decision. I was then able to, I was best resourced then to figure it out. So I think that’s a big thing with self-soothing as well. It’s another big benefit where if we’re thrown off, it doesn’t, it doesn’t fix the situation necessarily, but it makes us better resourced to be able to deal with it.
Le’Nise Brothers:
So this kind of leads us quite nicely to just get into the book itself. So your first book, so it’s called Radical Self-Care Rituals for Inne Inner Resilience. So this is coming out this summer, it’s not already out, is it?
Rebecca Moore:
So it’s actually out this week. The 11th of July is the official publishing date.
Le’Nise Brothers:
So it’s coming out this week. It’s such a beautiful book. I encourage everyone to get a copy of it. I absolutely adore this book. It’s so practical, beautiful illustrations, and it’s not overwhelming in any way. You can dip in and out of it as you need. Can you just talk about what you mean about by radical self-care?
Rebecca Moore:
Sure. So for me, self-care, when I used to think about self-care, I used to think about it as something that I have to earn or something that I get to enjoy on my days off whenever they would come. And I would also connect self-care. I saw the way that it was commercialised and commodified a lot. So I would also associate it with having to spend lots of money, going away on retreats, all of which are amazing, amazing things. If you’re privileged enough to do that, it’s incredible to be able to get away and to disconnect. But there was something that I noticed where I would go away. For me, it was because I love training and learning new healing modalities. And for me, that feels like a retreat, even though it can be quite hardcore.
But then coming back to what I call real life, your usual routine and finding it really difficult to implement the things that either even the kind of long bubble bath, that’s the kind of stereotypical self-care, and I love baths, I love them so much, but the reality is I don’t always have time for a long indulgent bath. And what I realized is when I’m the busiest, the busiest, busiest, busiest where I don’t feel like I have these long extended periods of time spare, it’s also when I need self-care the most. It’s also when I need to take the most exquisite care of myself. And I feel like to have an extremely busy day and still find ways to carve out little pockets of time, it’s a radical act. It is a radical act because just the way that we are kind of, I guess programmed in this modern society to believe again that self-care is something that we need to earn or something that’s an additional thing, an additional indulgence.
But it’s not an indulgence for me. It’s not, it’s literally like you wouldn’t say brushing your teeth as an indulgence. And in that same way, I wouldn’t say that self-care is an indulgence. It’s something that we all need more of. And again, it’s something that we need to practice even when, especially when we’re the most busy. And I think it’s a radical act because everything around us is telling us to place our attention elsewhere. So it’s a radical act to actually bring that attention back to ourselves and be honest about how we’re feeling and what we need. And in doing that we can understand, better, understand what we need to most take care of ourselves.
Le’Nise Brothers:
Beautiful. I really feel that because it is very radical to be able to stop check in and say, what do I actually need in this moment? Do I need to not react to this? Because it feels like society is just, it wants us to react in so many different ways. So-called real life and then what we do online, digitally, it’s very much about reactions. And to be able to say, well, I actually, that’s not what I need right now. I need to tune in and really think about what I actually need. And it could be a number of different things. And you have so many beautiful rituals in this book to help you tap into this inner resilience. And I want to ask you about, firstly, what you mean by ritual, and then just to add on to that question, inner resilience. So what do you mean by resilience?
Rebecca Moore:
Sure. So for me, ritual is something that I’m doing with complete attention and intention. So for example, there’ll be times, I mentioned brushing my teeth. There’ll be times where I’m brushing my teeth and I’m thinking about a million things. I’m thinking about what I have to do for that day or thinking about what I’ve done that day. But there’ll also be times because I really, really try as best as I can to be present with everything. You can make everything a ritual if you want, if you choose. So there are times where brushing my teeth can totally turn into a ritual for me.
So that’s what I mean by ritual. It can be anything. It’s anything that you do with intention and giving it your full attention. That’s kind of my definition. And it’s also obviously connected to the things that you do with attention and intention that you do also with purpose or for a purpose. And that can be anything. So I can have a ritual, for example, that is specific to grounding me, or I can have a ritual that is specific to getting me back in my body if I feel disconnected or I can have rituals for rest. So yeah, there are many different ways you can incorporate that. And the resilience question is interesting because I can be, I used to be very, I still am very hard on myself and can be a bit of a perfectionist, and I’ve really come from a place of thinking that it’s all about being strong and pushing through, and those that get rewarded are the ones that kind of work really hard. And I constantly have to untangle that kind of web of illusion and keep coming back to the truth that I now know and experience, which is all around the theme actually, I’ve been talking about also this week, soft power. So it is when we allow ourselves to soften where we become the most available to receive.
So resilience, the definition of resilience really kind of shifted for me because it’s not about pushing past, it is not about self abandoning or pushing beyond my limits to the point where it’s detrimental to my health. Actually, resilience is about listening to my body. And I guess this is where again, the theme of being radical comes in. It’s like to be resilient is to really honor how I’m feeling above all else, to take the time to check in. And it’s in doing that, it’s like resilience really comes from taking care. It doesn’t come from ignoring your body and pushing. And that’s almost like it creates this false sense of resilience because at some point everything will catch up. You hear those stories of people that go go, and then when they have a moment to relax, all of a sudden they get really ill. So resilience is, for me, in the new way that I define inner resilience, it’s being able to deal with stress whilst also doing your level best to create a life, design a life where you’re not choosing to be in stress consistently, continuously.
Le’Nise Brothers:
I think that’s really powerful because that word choosing to be in stress is really interesting because someone listening might be thinking, well, I don’t choose to be in stress. I just have a lot going on from parents to children to work to hobbies and all of that. But part of that is I think is boundaries. And you talk about in the book the power of being able to say no and being really clear about your boundaries. And I see this a lot, especially when I work with women in their forties where they have so much going on and they would never say, oh, I’m choosing to be in stress. But the choices that they are making or their inability to effectively say no and hold their boundaries continues or persists that stress where it doesn’t feel like a choice, but they saying no, not saying no is a choice that they’re making, and then the consequence is persistent stress. So I think that is such an interesting phrasing and that feels quite powerful for me the way that you explain that.
Rebecca Moore:
Yeah, I think I also want to say that the majority of us are living in a such a state of stress. And because as humans we actually don’t, there’s the whole theory of homeostasis, we don’t like change. So once we’ve got used to a state of being, it’s so difficult to shift out of that state. So actually being, I mean stay with me here, but it’s actually quite possible that for a lot of people being in a state of stress has become more comfortable than being able to relax because it’s just become what they’re used to. And I’ve definitely experienced that where I’ve had, all of a sudden I’ve got this space to just relax, but I want to busy myself. It feels uncomfortable to relax. So it’s something I think that needs to be spoken about more for sure. And there’s no shame in it.
I know that there are certain decisions that I make that aren’t to the betterment of my health and wellbeing, all the time. I was on Instagram late last night, not last night, the night before, and I could hear this little voice saying, you need to go sleep, you need to go to sleep. I was like, oh. But you start to give yourself these kind of excuses. And I was like, this is my only downtime all day. I just want to go and look at some funny memes and just have a little bit of a laugh. But for me, it is really good to just listen to that little voice that’s a lot of the time, a lot more quiet than the kind of voice that tells you all of the reasons why you should be doing this thing that isn’t necessarily that good for you. But yeah, it’s a hard thing to shift because we are creatures of, that kind of resist change, so that’s worth noting as well.
Le’Nise Brothers:
So what would you say to someone who’s listening to this and thinking, I really connect with what you’re saying about this kind of feeling more comfortable in this stressful state. I love having a lot going on, but I know that I need to work on my boundaries. What would you say to someone who is really resonating with that?
Rebecca Moore:
It really is about consistency. That’s how you reprogram and retune. And that’s again why I wrote the book in the way that I did with having these kind of small things, small accessible rituals, practices that you can do consistently that don’t feel like you are taking a huge chunk out of your day or adding something to your already infinite to-do list. But it really is consistency. The more that you choose yourself, the more that you choose yourself, the more that you build all sorts of things, you build a sense of self love, self-worth, you really start to value yourself on a deeper level. And then slowly but surely it will become a lot harder to make decisions that are costing you something or decisions that do feel like you’re abandoning yourself. You really start to recognize that saying no was one of the hardest things that I think I got to implement because I love to please people.
I love to make people happy. I love to see that glimmer in people’s eyes that when you kind of light someone up. But I was doing that. I was taking on a lot in addition to my initial responsibilities, just trying to be everything for everyone else all the time. And it led to all sorts of things, burnout, but also really not being, when you spread yourself so thin, you’re not actually showing up in your fullness. So over time you start to become less and less effective. So yeah, I would say just consistently observing the moments where you may abandon yourself, the moments where you push yourself too far, the choices that you make that may not be necessarily the most helpful in terms of you just being able to maintain a sense of wellbeing. And also I would say to give yourself grace because it’s really easy to start going on a guilt trip or a shaming trip with this as well. We live, this modern world, it really, really requires so much from us and will always meet those challenging moments for some of us that may be so regular that it feels almost impossible to regain a sense of self-care. But it is possible. And I would just say to anyone listening that the smallest micro habits that you can implement into your routine just to remind yourself of how much you value and love yourself will make a tremendous shift.
Le’Nise Brothers:
I love that. I really love that. Something I really connected with in the book was in the conscious rest chapter, and you talk about slowing down your speech, and it’s something I actually, I get a little bit self-conscious about because when I listen back to these podcasts that I record or the content that I create on the internet, especially on TikTok, I notice that I do speak, I try to speak in a really intentional, deliberate way, but I do speak slowly, especially when you look at the way that people speak on TikTok where it’s about being fast and speeding up and just getting to the point and being able to slow down your speech is such an interesting one in a world that demands that we move faster, we go quickly, we get to the next thing. Can you just talk a little bit more about why slowing down your speech is a form of conscious rest?
Rebecca Moore:
Sure. And it’s exactly as you say, we are constantly bombarded at the moment with this almost feels like real, it’s like this pressure to speed up not just our speech, but everything. It’s like everything is running at this pace and it’s that we have to keep up, we have to keep up or we’ll get left behind. I think that slowing down speech specifically is so good for becoming or rebecoming more intentional with our words, becoming more intentional with what we share. I love to take pauses in my speech. I love to take a moment to think, and I find that it means that I am first of all, less trying to just fill the space.
I’m giving myself the opportunity for any words that I’ve received to really land without being overreacting, like just reacting from a surface layer. It’s like allowing things to really land and sit with you. And also just coming back to that, being intentional with your words, you’re more likely to communicate in a way that is more most authentic to you and also most responsible. Often our first reactive communication, the first thought that comes into our head, it’s not always the way that we actually want to respond to something. So slowing down your speech, it moves you away from that kind of more reactive state. You are able to allow something to land or allowing that time to consider something, having time to really feel into what you want to say and the feeling behind your words, the intention behind your words. And it’s a form of conscious rest because it does actually bring you into when you have to be intentional. So for example, if you’ve been triggered by something and you’re in a sympathetic state, if you slow down your speech, if you start to create that pause and feel into what you want to say you’re more likely to react or respond, I should say, from your restful state rather than a reactive sympathetic state.
Le’Nise Brothers:
So the power of taking a pause, whether that’s a physical pause in just not saying anything, or maybe it’s a pause in terms of taking a deep breath and using that as that moment where you collect yourself.
And what I love what you said there about feeling into what you want to say, because when I teach yoga, and I’ve heard other yoga teachers use this phrasing as well, will you feel into the pose? I think that sometimes people don’t get that. What do you mean feel into it? What do you mean feel into the way that you speak? But it’s such an interesting way of putting it because you’re allowing yourself to get out of your head and move in certainly when you move into pose into the way that a pose, the pose feels best in your body and similar with your speech, taking a beat and just thinking, okay, what is it that I’m really trying to say here? Rather than, as we talked about earlier, just reacting. I just love this. I just love this conversation. I love what you have to say.
Going back to the book, can you talk more about the kind of nuts and bolts of the process of writing the book? Because as an author myself, I really find it interesting hearing about the experience of other authors and how they put together their books. Can you say a bit more about your experience?
Rebecca Moore:
Yeah, sure. I actually had an amazing experience with writing this book. I did experience imposter syndrome, which is feeling like, who am I to be writing this book and who’s going to listen to what I have to say kind of thing. I think a lot of authors could probably, a lot of people in general probably resonate with that. But for me, it was really incredible because I was writing the book alongside my usual schedule of work, and at some point in the future, I’m calling in that writing gig that allows me to go and spend time in the mountains in Morocco and just completely give my full focus and time to that project. But I didn’t have the pleasure of that for this book. It was really fitting in time to write alongside my schedule. And I remember communicating with friends that I’m just going to need some time.
I’m going to be a little bit antisocial for a month and a bit, but please just know that it’s not personal if I’m saying no a lot during this time. But what was really beautiful for me as well was all of the rituals in the book are things that I practice, but they’re not things that I would practice, you can’t practice 40 different rituals, the amount of rituals in the book, you can’t practice 40 different rituals every single day. But what was really beautiful during the process of writing was using some of the rituals that I was writing about interchangeably during the process to support me in the process of writing the book. So for example, I remember there were two weeks where there was a specific time where I’d have the space to write during the day, and I would start that process with a ritual, and it was the ritual of sitting with tea.
Tea is a big part of my life. I quit drinking alcohol in November 2019, and it was herbal teas and tea that helped me with that process. There’s a saying that you don’t really cure your addictive behavior, you just shift them to a higher state. For me, shifting from alcohol to tea was my thing. But yeah, sitting with tea, for me, it is a ritual that really just brings me into a state of deep peace and it brings my mind into a deeper state of clarity and focus. So that was one of them that really helped.
Also, I have a ritual in the book called The Wake Up Call. It’s something that I learned through a meridian yoga therapy training I did with an Incredible teacher, Dr. Rosea, and it’s literally just slapping the body, slapping up and down the body to activate through the meridian lines. And for me, that practice is incredible for when I’m writing. And then I got a bit of brain fog and I was just like, oh, no, all just got completely stuck just as a reset to kind of just get the energy flowing. Again, things like just a simple forward fold because when you bring your head below your heart, you get that nice rush of blood to the brain.
So many different things, so many different rituals that actually helped me along the writing process. But also I would say I had to release a lot of perfectionism because I realised that I could have changed. I kept wanting to change the whole book, but at a certain point you just have to decide, no, this is it. This is what wants to be birthed, and we’re just going to honour this. And the other thing I would mention was I think the most challenging thing was the intro because of sharing my story and just, I don’t know, it felt quite vulnerable to share, but also a beautiful process of being able to be vulnerable and put those words onto paper.
Le’Nise Brothers:
It’s such a beautiful book and I really, I just adore it. I can’t wait to just keep coming back into it. The photographs are just so lovely and you just feel just so calm reading it. So thank you for writing the book and putting it out into the world, and I encourage all listeners to grab a copy of it. It’s just wonderful. My next question is, what do you have coming up next? But the book is coming out next week.
Rebecca Moore:
All focus is on the book right now. I’ve also just moved into an amazing live-work space, which has been a dream of mine for a long time. So I’m in a space now where I can hold events and workshops and half day retreats, full day retreats, and all sorts of yummy things. So I’m also putting a lot of focus into that as well. And it’s called Inner Landing because I always feel like I’m trying to land, but also the buildings used to be an old, well back in the day, an aircraft factory, so it just felt very, very fitting. But yeah, full attention on the book and also just the birthing of this space and all of the amazing magic that can be created here.
Le’Nise Brothers:
Great. And what’s one thought that you love to leavr listeners with today?
Rebecca Moore:
I’m going to take a pause. I’m going to honour what I said and take a pause and just feel into it. The thought I would love to leave your incredible listeners is just that it’s so important for us to create space where, create space for ourselves, where we can just give ourselves permission to be as we are. Because in life we are constantly trying to better ourselves or fix ourselves in some way. But just know that wherever you are right now listening, are enough, you are valued, you are loved, you are worthy, and it’s so important for us to create space for ourselves where we can give ourselves full permission to be exactly as we are and enjoy that space and rest into that space and soften into that space.
Le’Nise Brothers:
Beautiful. Where can people get in touch with you?
Rebecca Moore:
So my website is rebecca-moore.com, so you can get in touch with me through my website or you can reach out to me on Instagram. I have a very popular name, apparently Rebecca Moore. So on Instagram I handles @__Rebecca__ Moore, which some people just assume as me trying to be fancy, but it’s not. It was literally the only way that I could get my whole name in there. But yeah, I love people reaching out. So DM me, email me, come to one of my events, come and say hi whenever.
Le’Nise Brothers:
And of course, can they get a copy of the book. And just to reference, the book is called Radical Self-Care Rituals for Inner Resilience.
Rebecca Moore:
So the book should be out in just local bookstores from this Thursday. It’s available worldwide as well. I have a link in my Instagram bio that is geotagged, so it can show you where you can pick it up from your local bookstore.
Le’Nise Brothers:
Fantastic. Thank you so much for coming onto the show today. Congratulations on the book. I love it. And I can’t wait to dive more deeply into it.
Rebecca Moore:
Thank you. Thank you for having me. This is a beautiful way to start my day. I really appreciate it.